Somewhere in life I read an article that told me that eating dinner as a family is key. Key to what, that I dont remember but I use this time to grill Zaryus on what he has learned at school. Typically nothing, and what he did, his friends names, we still dont know those, etc. I have a kindle fire which Zaryus is now addicted to, he watches netflix and at any given moment from the time he comes home from school he is watching something. I have now banned the kindle at least during the school week. And while banning the kindle I did the most old person thing ever, I gave him the story of how me and my siblings used to have to go outside after school and were not allowed tv besides on weekends and then only to watch PBS. All true, I dont know where my dad stored all the drawings we made during "pappys world" but he made us wake up and do them.
Zaryus then said, well mom lets go outside then. And my answer was, ask you dad to take you. Why? I couldnt answer why, but truthfully I kind of hate nature. Yesterday I screamed while wlking to my car from school because a squirrel ran out of the bushes. Nature is unknown, and dirty. Getting dirty is another issue I have, I will paint or draw, and sculpt but then I must immediately take a shower and get clean. Zaryus is the same way he will play outside, and then the second he comes in he must bathe. I somehow have made him like this, and for this I am glad, because I hate dirty looking kids.
My husband says its more deep routed, besides watching PBS on weekends we were also forced to hike on weekends, and hike we did, I once got lost on a mountain somewhere in Mass. And by lost I mean I sat down to take a break on a log and everyone else moved on without me.
I also have an extreme distaste for bugs and all things slimy, frogs, snakes, slugs, the list goes on and on. How I had an outdoor wedding, is as much of a surprise to me as it is for everyone else.
I'm more of a look out of my safe and secure car window and say to my husband wow look at that hawk, or those leaves are so pretty. I'm told that not many others can identify different species of birds as I myself can. Once again, thanks dad, if youve taught me anything, my uncanny ability to spot out animals, birds, and of course plants and flowers. All shit that I am going to need for the rest of my life.
My parents live in the country which I escaped as soon as I could, they have a creek that I think is lovely, and my son loves to throw rocks into, and occasionally swim in. Im more of a pool kind of lady myself.
For as sad as this all may seem in my defense I do take my children outside on my own terms. You can see us walking almost every evening, I go to and from my car, several times a day. Sometimes I even park extra far away so I can get a little extra fresh air. But when my son asked me to take him outside to play in the yard we pay extra to have and that I bitch about when it isnt mowed. Absurd. I know my husband thinks to himself all the time why are you bitching about it its not like your going to go out there anyways. But I do at lease three times per season, and I take pictures, so we can mark the memory in our minds until the next time comes.
There are alot of things on the list of things Tershia does not like, outdoor activities, excercise, chinese food, bad hygene, I jokingly say Asians, which is totally an inside joke that I should stop saying since one of my good friends and babysitter is some sort of Asian (I cant ever really distinguish them, and never ask because that would seem rude). Zaryus seems to bring out all of these dislikes, hold them in his hand, and then present them to me when I am trying to make a point.
I am now at a cross road, should I get off of my butt and go outside out of the air conditioned comfort of my own home (I also dont like to sweat) or should I let my son melt his brain by watching power rangers, and all other shows that will eventually make you mentally...slow.
The kindle is now all his, I have to ask permission to use it we have made a deal that he will only watch Strawberry shortcake (his favorite), Dr. Seuss, etc. Some people use video games, I my friends use the power of tv at his little finger tips.
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